Verified by Psychology Today. Minority Report. Usually, one side or both sets of parents are dead set against them dating their significant other. Sometimes it's because one person is dating someone Caucasian. Other times it's because they're of a different Asian ethnicity.
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One of the major factors contributing to Asian Male bitterness is no doubt the parents. Asian Parents are generally loving, caring, and doting; nevertheless, there are two very important factors that Asian Parents have on their kids, especially their sons, that instill bitterness. Academics Over Social Life The first factor is the pressure. Oh, the pressure. Asian kids are consistently expected to do more and do better than their peers, and hell, even kids twice their age. Therefore, almost all Asian children 1 will play an instrument a dignified classical instrument at that, and certainly not electric guitar 2 will study math at an accelerated pace — I was doing calculus in middle school 3 will participate in as many extracurricular activities as possible all academic though, never sports and 4 take standardized tests early and as many times as necessary to achieve a perfect score. This problem is only exacerbated by the Asian trait so common I swear it must be genetic to compare children.
'My strict Asian parents made me awkward and lonely'
They want you to strive for perfection in every single avenue. This may have, at one time, mostly applied to grades. My father, who not so coincidentally works in the IT field, probably wants me to be with someone as career-driven as himself, someone who can provide for a family of five like he has. The thing is, I am not my parents.
In a speed-dating study conducted at Columbia University in , Asian men also had the most difficulty getting a second date. My parents grew up financially unstable in China. They look back at it and laugh now, but my mother recalls having to share one bowl of rice for dinner with all her siblings. Whenever the rice got too low in the bowl, they would add water to make the illusion that there was more food.